The Three C’s: Choice, Consequences, and Change
This is the second fn a four-part series of short ramblings of “dangling thoughts” you may be able to relate to. I hope there will be something you’ll want to ponder. I’m prepared for a variety of reactions including, “hogwash!” or “interesting!”. These topics have found themselves on the “notes app” of my iPhone over the past few months. I find the commonality of the themes interesting and the fact that they found themselves on my phone under the category of “Potential Rambling Topics!” .
Each of us were born with unique talents, skills, and attributes. One of our many choices in life is whether to embrace what we’ve been given, feel envy for what others have been given, or we may shrug our shoulders and say, “It is what it is.” I believe we need to adopt an attitude of gratitude and thanks for our god given talents that we’ve been given and constantly look for ways to further develop these unique traits , attributes and talents with the help of others around us. The book, Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance did a masterful job as one of his themes, framing this notion.
During times of challenge, sorrow or loss, we often find ourselves asking big questions such as: Why did that happen to me? Why are we here? What is the meaning of all of this? What is our purpose? How will I cope and recover? How do I make a mid course correction? Perhaps one might just accept life as it is and say, “It is what it is.” – WRONG!
I am certainly not professing to have all of the answers but my experiences have taught me lessons, both good and not so good. I offer them only as examples for consideration. in pondering some of these questions.
It seems to me we are to live a purposeful and meaningful life, embrace our god given talents and share them with others as we are here to serve others, not ourselves.
I was given an unexpected gift this winter when I attended a live concert at Crooners, a supper club in Northeast Minneapolis. At first, I was disappointed that the artist I was expecting was not the one actually performing. My attitude could have been, “Well, it is what it is.” and fuss in disappointment. However, the evening turned out to be great. Soul singer Wee Willie Walker & We “R” Band performed. What a gift! I cannot imagine anyone would have been more fun. This was a great reminder to take a pause before lamenting about something. What struck me in particular was a song with the lyrics, “I got a second chance today.” I certainly wish I had a second chance regarding some aspects of my life. Is there such a thing as a second chance? Does it really have to be “It is what it is”? Second chances provide us with opportunities to have an amazing life, relationships, a business or career, and more.
Recently, I came across an article on LinkedIn: “Setting a direction for personal change – a crucial tip to get you heading in the right direction” by Bridget Clapham (Nov 10, 2017) and found these kernels of wisdom that are worth sharing:
Ask yourself as I have asked myself these three initial (and simple) questions when wanting a change as opposed to accepting, “It is what it is!
- What is it that I want? Take some time and think about what it is that you really want in different aspects of your life; write down some thoughts. Phrase these thoughts in the positive (e.g. “I want to feel more confident giving a speech,” or “I want to experience more diverse travel adventures,” or “I want a true, meaningful, intimate, life partner!”)
- Why do I want what I have identified? This is critical as it must be for our reasons and no one else’s.
- What will be different when I have/or do this? What will be different when I have what I desire or have identified to be important? What will it mean to me and to those around me?
So, My Hat is off to those who adopt the motto:
IT IS NOT: “IT IS WHAT IT IS!”