An impromptu posting, something that I do on rare occasions as a result of something that touched me, made me think and inspired to ramble a bit. To challenge readers to reflect if anything resonates with themselves……I find it interesting the more engaged you are, the less inward you think and observe outward the broader your perspectives and interests become (just my perspective)


Encarta defines Respect as; “To feel or show admiration and deference toward somebody or something”

This past weekend I spent time at the cabin for a wonderful cold, snow few days of fires, wine and watching the entire Netflix Series “The Crown”. I was struck with more than the scope of this rambling, however a few were especially meaningful triggers that has prompted this impromptu non edited post.

For those unfamiliar with the Netflix created series;

As reviewed by NEIL GENZLINGER NOV. 3, 2016 , The series: “The Crown,” and the monarch is Elizabeth II, the very woman who sits on the British throne today. She’s not exactly the kind of hard-living, bloodthirsty ruler who makes for frothy television, and “The Crown,” a 10-part drama queen-elizabeththat becomes available Friday on Netflix, doesn’t try to pretend that she is. This is a thoughtful series that lingers over death rather than using it for shock value; one that finds its story lines in small power struggles rather than gruesome palace coups. Here, it takes an episode and a half just for George VI (Jared Harris) to cough himself to death so that Elizabeth (Claire Foy) can ascend to the throne. (Peter Morgan, creator and writer of the series)

Claire Foy as Elizabeth II in “The Crown.” Credit Alex Bailey/Netflix

I was struck by: The incredible Respect shown by the media immediately following the death of Elizabeth’s father, King George in a poignant scene when Elizabeth was leaving for the airport after learning of her father’s death. The “press paparazzi” refrained from hounding Elizabeth, honored her with dignity, with silence and refrained camera flashes as Elizabeth was escorted to her car and drove away.

The scene was dramatic and caused me to pause with thought about this powerful attribute of Respect . I realized that Respect is earned, it is a byproduct of behavior,  the manner in which we interact with others, our character as to how we exhibit selflessness acts, kindness and conviction of beliefs with dignity.  It is reflective of sincere passion and worthwhile beliefs beyond one’s self.  I found myself reflecting on Respect and what  it takes to earn this moniker, how quickly it can be lost and what it takes to earn it back if there is a stumble in life. How do you, the reader view Respect?

I was struck by : a comment made in a scene by Mother Queen, King Georges Mother as she was bed ridden and said to Elizabeth; “ If everyone continues to just ask me how I am feeling, I will not die from lung disease, I will die from bad conversation”. The art of conversation with substance and meaning is the glue to a great relationship . This is a skill that is learned, it is a skill that is grounded by living a life of substance and meaningful ness beyond ourselves, it a skill that is enhanced by reading and being exposed to diverse aspects of life and the world. It is a skill that can be learned and refined if we care. Do you agree?

I was struck by: The scene when an almost king who, due to the lineage of the one he loved, prevented his coronation was asked if he regretted in essence turning down the position, his response was “I turned it down for something far greater, for Love!” What a powerful phrase and statement of commitment to the person in our life. It was correct and something that should ground that lifetime partner in our lives, it will create compassion, it will enable forgiveness, it creates amazing and it further helps define Joy far beyond happiness. Great vulnerable communication and development of a partnership and “WE LIFE” is the bedrock for this, in my opinion, Do you agree and should there be more?

That’s it for this rambling, reflect on RESPECT, CONVERSATION and LOVE references and if they have meaning to you as it did for me!


4 thoughts on “RESPECT

  1. Another great “Ramble”

    RESPECT: It’s something lacking today–it’s something we’ve lost in the last 50 or 60 years. The British show respect toward the monarchy–but they also show respect in their everyday lives. (Consider the witticisms of Winston Churchill–who was able to insult his detractors while still being engaged in respectful conversation). Contrast that with the lack of civility today–in conversation–in public discourse. Today, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T” is often DEMANDED–not earned.

    CONVERSATION: Another lost art. Consider the initial remarks in a telephone call–“How ‘ya doin’? People don’t really care how you are doing–it’s automatic–like saying “Hello” when answering a call. Is there a better response to the query than “Fine, thank you ?”Few people talk face to face any more, e-mail and texting have taken over direct conversation. There’s no immediate give and take–no immediate response–little exchange of timely ideas. You state: “it a skill that is enhanced by reading and being exposed to diverse aspects of life and the world. It is a skill that can be learned and refined if we care. Do you agree?” YES–but we have to move beyond the conventions and “shortcuts” of today, and actually work to communicate with others. Your point of being “exposed to diverse aspects of life and the world” is well taken–it is hard to communicate about something you know nothing about.

    People in the first half of the twentieth century learned about others. They had more curiosity about the world than we see today. Today, we’ve become a world of specialists–and if we ARE curious enough to try to divine the answer, we simply look it up on a smartphone–an encyclopedia in your pocket. We no longer are expected to retain a broad spectrum of information in our head–unlike the well-educated and erudite of that period.

    Conversation today is stifled BECAUSE of that lack of knowledge. Most educated people of the era you describe had at least a smattering of knowledge about a wide range of subject–so they could develop a conversation. Today, with a large percentage of high school students requiring remedial courses in college to learn what they should have known before entry, it is hard to have good communication with someone that has never heard or considered the subject.

    LOVE: Much has been made of George’s abdication for love–but wouldn’t most of us? Many have put aspirations and careers on hold for love. Many have DIED for love–wouldn’t most of us? Put in that place, resigning as a monarch is fairly petty.


  2. Meaningful conversation can only occur when we trust the other…..when we trust that person worth our words, thoughts and feelings. Out of that trust, grows deep respect.
    Our thoughts and words are some of the most intimate gifts we have to share with another. And in that realm of meaningful conversation, embracing the concept of respect is fundamental.
    And yes, meaningful conversation is a skill and something we all need to practice and use.
    That being said, sometimes silence … also just as meaningful. And powerful . Rather than fill the void with vapid words, embrace the silence and respect that silence . And in doing that, we are showing our respect for the other….and a deep appreciation for their gift of words.

    And yes…:The Crown is an amazing series . So very much to be learned !


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